I am amazed as I work with couples in marriage counseling how our perceptions can be so different than reality. I often hear one partner say something to their partner that their partner hears COMPLETELY different than what was said. What we hear comes with so much baggage. What is said goes thru a filter, based on our experiences, and is translated in our minds to mean something that is sometimes different than what was said.  I see it often and it happens often. 

I use the analogy a lot with couples in marriage counseling that a relationship is like a plant.  If you water it, give it proper lighting (the amount or type the plant actually needs), and fertilize it as needed, it will stay healthy and give you little to no trouble.  However, i?f you neglect the plant and expect it to take care of itself and do nothing to nurture it, it will die

Do you ever feel so overwhelmed that you notice things but they go to the back of your mind to fix later? One day when I was driving to work, I was particularly rushed and little stressed out. I kept looking in my rear-view mirror and putting in the back of my mind that I needed to fix that. 

One day this past winter I was taking my 4 year-old to preschool.  We both enjoy this time together, he mostly enjoys it because he can talk and get me all to himself with little to no distractions, except traffic.  Personally, I had been struggling with some things that were causing me a lot of anxiety and worry.I kept trying to control things and figure them out on my own, forgetting most of the time that God had my back.